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In an article written on February 6, 2012 in the New York Times, titled âAdoption and the DNA Family Searchâ, author KJ DellâAntonia, an international adoptive parent, reported on the issue of adult adopted children seeking their birth records. In her article, DellâAntonia explains that some, particularly Adam Pertman, an adoption advocate, have gone so far as to declare access to information on birth parents to be a civil rights issue, and that denying adult adoptees access to their original birth records is denying a minority group equal rights under the law.
DellâAntonia also cites to a January 23, 2012 New York Times article authored by Rachel L. Swarns, who demonstrated that âa growing number of adoptees, now in their thousands, are turning to DNA testing companies in hopes of piecing together the puzzles of their beginningsâ. In their search, DellâAntonia and Swarns indicate that adult adoptees are turning, in greater numbers, to DNA databases to find relatives. The problem is that these databases are small and incomplete. Furthermore, while there may be many services which are tailored to adoptees seeking information about their genetic roots, she notes that the obvious problem is that finding relatives is conditioned on relatives having their DNA recorded on such databases.
For a person who has been adopted, there are many unknowns about that personâs life that affect that individual and their psyche. Some consideration must also be given to biological parents who put their children up for adoption. They may wish to keep certain facets about the process continually unknowable. That is usually the purpose behind a closed adoption. But to go so far as to declare access to birth records as a civil right may seem problematic as well. For example, children are placed for adoption in certain instances on the condition that their genetic parentsâ identity will not be revealed at any time. It is possible to foresee that if laws provide for unlimited future access to birth records, those parents who did not wish to be found, can be located. As a result, it is also possible to foresee that those parents who would place their children up for adoption based on a meaningless condition of a closed adoption, may opt out of adoption as an option, with the potential of adding to the burden of an already overstretched welfare state.
The problem also lies in the fact that the adoptive parents may feel emotionally undermined as well. Even in the most supportive households, there are consequences to telling those who raised you and loved you that you wish to seek out your genetic parents. Many who belong to adoption support groups and who post to online communities regarding adoption, fight with their emotions in this area. On the one hand, they feel this strong urge to find biological closure. Yet they also recognize that the adoptive parents may be hurt by engaging in such a search. As an international adoptee, Iâve often been asked by others if I wish to find my birth parents, to which I consistently respond that I do not. I find that I am perfectly happy with the life I have been given by the family who took me in when I was six-months old. Further, I know it would wreak emotional havoc on my mother to undergo such a search, even though she outwardly expressed her support for me if I was to try to find my birth parents.
Such considerations should be evaluated and legislation should not be enacted to regulate this intensely private area with respect to the adoptive parents, the child, and the adoptive family. That being said, it is undeniable that many other adoptees, who were the products of international adoption or closed adoptions, will continue to seek out information regarding their birth families. Closure aside, there is a unrelated question that hangs over the head of many adoptees, âwhat inheritable conditions and disorders may I be facing in the future?â  The only reason that I do not totally disagree with Mr. Pertmanâs statement above is that there are medical reasons for many to seek such information. For those who are not adopted, the answers are clearer even without the need for genetic screening. Certain types of cancers, mental disorders, and other conditions can be predicted based on family history, and even prevented if appropriate steps are taken; for an adoptee with no access to birth records or genetic screening, these remain persistent and uncomfortable unknowns.
So how is one to strike a balance between a medical need for genetic history, the desire of birth parents to remain anonymous, an adopteeâs emotional need and desire for closure, and the adoptive familyâs wellbeing? This is clearly not a very easy question to answer, but I believe it must fall short of declaring unlimited access to birth records a civil right. To declare it a civil right undermines the purpose behind closed adoptions which still constitute a sizeable portion of all adoptions in the US and more so international adoptions. In terms of medical need, there are methods to genetically screen someone to determine hereditary conditions that may arise in the future. These can be performed without access to birth records, but the issue here is clearly cost. As technology develops, the cost of genetic screening will undoubtedly decrease. Until then, however, many must continue to live with this health related uncertainty.
There must be some middle ground between the civil right declaration and having no right at all. Perhaps access to records should be limited to medical need. Perhaps it should be conditioned on consent of the most relevant parties, particularly the adopted adult child and the birth parents. Undoubtedly biological parents may change their minds and allow for themselves to be found. But to declare access a civil right as a blanket policy does not take into consideration the myriad of emotional consequences that affect all parties involved.




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March 5, 2012 at 8:11 am
Approximately 97% of mothers who lost their children to adoption were forced in one way or the other (usually many more than one way). It is the very rare minority that actually wants to âgive upâ their baby to strangers and who have done so with fully informed consent.
The âburdenâ on the welfare system is simply not a valid argument. Any burden on the system is due to the way the system is designed and the lack of support/resources that can make a lasting difference for families for generations to come and in that, less burden on the system as time goes on. Itâs really rather simple.
However, I will not go into that avenue since the most glaring issue with this argument is the underhanded assertion that poor people are not entitled to their own children; as if by being poor one is somehow subhuman or unworthy to parent his/her offspring. This is not a new view, especially in the adoption industry, however repugnant.
Re: obtaining oneâs documentation of birth, et al. not being a Civil Rights issueâŚhow so? These are human beings we are talking about. Adoptees have every right to their OBC and any documentation having to do with THEIR adoption, natural origins, etc. It is THEIRS.
There are far too many lies, deceit and secrets in the adoption industry. And it is all surrounded by big business. The PAPs havenât dealt with their infertility so they want to live in denial of it. They want to live in rainbow-farting unicorn land where they pretend the adoptee is born to them. If the adoption agency canât promise them they are 100% legally the parents (including altering the OBC which personally I think should NEVER be done to start with) and the natural family canât/wonât âinterfereâ then those PAPs wonât pay upwards of $30,000 (ďFACT & nothing short of baby selling on the backs of poor/frightened/beaten down young mothers) for their pretend offspring.
Sealing these records does not now and NEVER HAS had anything to do with promising mothers confidentiality of any kind. The idea that natural parents have ever been promised confidentiality is a FALSEHOOD. Itâs just another smokescreen to get the ignorant masses into a political frenzy about something they know nothing about though it is high time people start paying attention because you are all perpetuating the abuse of power, human rights violations out the wazoo, and a blight on our country as huge as slavery and I dare say, even genocide.
In the event that an adoption absolutely HAS to take place I do not think the childâs name should be changed, nor should the childâs birth certificate be altered & most certainly no files should be sealed from the child once he/she is an adult. Adoption should be outlawed completely & a kind of guardianship or permanent custody used in the cases that are absolutely 100% unavoidable. There is zero reason for secrecy when all is on the up and up, as they say.
All people should know their roots, their history, their heritage, their ancestry. All people should be able to wear that natural history proudly in the form of their given name/surname.
And in closing, two other points Iâd like to note:
1) no one wants to have a child just to hand it over to someone else. it is devastating. any woman who has given birth knows this.
2) another issue with all this baby selling secrecy is the need to know if you are about to marry and procreate with your sibling! can we please return to some level of common sense and human decency?